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Losing a Friend
Topic Author: Josh Fitzpatrick
Posted: 1:09 PM Apr 30, 2008
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Losing a Friend

Before I moved to the Huntington area I lived in the Beckley area for several years.  At my apartment in Beckley, I wasn't allowed any pets.  Where I live now, I'm able to have one.

Several months ago I went to a local animal shelter in Huntington.  I saw several cats and dogs.  Many of them were after my attention.  The dogs were barking and the cats were meowing up a storm.  I realized they were probably saying "pick me, pick me!"  I love animals and wished I could've brought all of them home.  At the time, I wasn't sure if I wanted to adopt a cat or a dog.  Through my life, I've been more of a dog person.  As I walked through the shelter, this big, white and yellow Tom Cat caught my eye.  He had been there for a few weeks and was about to be put down in a couple days.  He was about two to three years old the animal shelter told me.  They also told me there's not a big market for older cats or dogs for that matter.  Most people either want a kitten or a puppy to adopt.

After playing with this big, white and yellow Tom Cat, I just had to take him home.  I adopted him and named him Nigel.

The fee was fifty dollars and that was for his first set of shots and for him to be neutered.  He was not neutered yet.  A couple weeks later I had the routine procedure done.

The surgery went well.  He had some stitches and the Veterinarian said make sure he gets a lot of rest and he doesn't jump up and down or pick him up.  All went well, or it seemed to be. 

Before the surgery Nigel was very playful, had a lot of energy and ate a lot!  Afterwords, he was just the opposite.  He slept a lot and lost weight from not eating.  I took him back to the Vet.  The Doctor told me it's normal, he'll come back around and to give it a couple more weeks.

The two weeks came and went.  As of this past Tuesday morning when I left for work he wasn't acting right.  He could barely walk or meow.  I thought to myself, when I'm off later today I'm going to take him back to the Vet.

It was Tuesday evening when I finally got home.  The first thing I did was go find him.  Nigel was in his favorite place.  He loved to sit and look outside my back sliding glass window.  It was there I found him dead.

According to the vet, he most likely died from an infection from his surgery that went to his Kidneys.  He also told me it's not easy on an older animal to get "fixed".  The reason I'm sharing this story is to let all of you know, getting your pets spayed or neutered is still extremely important.  The key is, according to most Veterinarians, get it done before they turn six months old. 

I like to think I saved Nigel from being stuck in that cramped cage and gave him some peace at the end.  I'll miss him! 

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Posted by: JOSH FITZPATRICK I wish to thank everyone who read and left comments! I do have plans to adopt another cat from a local shelter soon.

Posted by: debbie Well Josh, I posted awhile back about my 15 year old cat, and sadly the time has come, I know I did my best. doesn't make it any easier. Hope you're feeling better, I'm feeling awful right now, Tomorrow is the day. But hey the stray I've been feeding and recently had spayed has 3 kittens and they could sure use a home!!!

Posted by: JOANNA Josh,I hope that this does not discourage you from getting another cat or kitten,I have eight cats,and have them all spayed/neutered,they give you such unconditional love,I have one named Beatrice and she is so sweet,I took her in when she was a stray,she has a wonderful way w/all the other cats,but truly I love them all,try again I am so sure that you will be so glad that you did,they bring you so much happiness and joy,I am deeply sorry for your loss,but please do try again!

Posted by: WANDA Josh, I am in your corner. I had to put down my poodle of 8 years. He had cancer. He had been a rescue 7 1/2 years before, and the best of bud's. His name was Bennie. And he was a joy. I really miss him and so does Jaz, our Yorkie. They were buddies all the way. The first couple of days, Jaz would carry food to the rug Bennie laid on and just set and wait for him to eat. That just about broke my heart all over. That has been 4 years. Still hurts. So yes, Love them and lose them is bitter sweet.

Posted by: Kim I'm so sorry for your loss Josh. I took in a stray kitten about a year ago and he has become part of our family. God bless you for taking such good care of Nigel.

Posted by: BRENDA I HAVE A CAT, HER NAME IS BOOTS,WE HAVE HAD HER SINCE SHE WAS 5 WEEKS OLD. I CAN'T IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT HER. I QM SURE YOU ARE STILL VERY SAD OVER NIGEL'S DEATH, BUT DON'T WAIT TOO LONG BEFORE YOU GET ANOTHER CAT OR DOG. THEY CAN NOT TAKE NIGEL'S PLACE, BUT O WHAT JOY OUR PETS BRING TO OUR LIVES.

Posted by: Tracie I am sorry about your baby, I also adopted (off of the street) a yellow and white tom kitten about a month ago. I took him to be nuetered and when I picked him up from the vet's office, I noticed he didn't look right, he died 4 hours later. I have an autopsy scheduled through a state facility because I beleive he was overdosed. I also have 6 other baby's that have been previously spayed and nuetered but I get very attached so, "little man" meant alot to me! My sympathy is with you!

Posted by: Michelle I'm so sorry to hear about your Nigel. I have a tom cat currently missing. He just recently turned about 8 months old and is missing (I only hope that he is out finding a girlfriend and will return and not dead somewhere). If he comes back, neutering is the first thing on the agenda. I miss him so much. I call him my lover kitty because he is the most affectionate thing. I hope he returns. It's breaking my heart. I know Nigel just spent a short while with you, but that's all it takes to have so much love for something. I miss my James. I'm sure you miss your Nigel. At least he isn't suffering and you tried. Sorry for your loss.

Posted by: Ginger Josh...just remember how happy Nigel was to have a loving home if only for a short time. I adopted my dog Sophie from a foster shelter. She had suffered through two homes, and a short sentence in a local pound before going to the foster home. Sophie was 14 months old when she adopted me, but what joy she brings into my life. Pets are furry, little blessings...

Posted by: Danny Josh, you were so right to go to the animal shelter and pick an older pet, I'm so sorry for your loss. I have 2 cats, Cuca(15), and Tommy(14), and they are my kids, I've had them since they were 7-8 weeks old and had them spayed/neutered before six months. I would definately find a different vet when you do decide to adopt again, but at least Nigel was with someone that loved and cared for him during his last days, you are a real caring man! I hope you share your new pet with us on here when you do get one. Thanks for your story.

Posted by: Rhonda Thanks for sharing a difficult thing. I hope in the future you will again adopt. So many animals need good homes. You are all right.

Posted by: Jamie Josh, so sorry for your loss. How nice your cat was able to enjoy a bit of life outside the shelter before he passed. If you should adopt another please avoid that vet....he/she should have listened to you the pet owner....you know you animal wasn't right. More should have been done.

Posted by: We have a cat that has your name all over it!! OH, I am so sorry to hear about your cat. But good news... I have a big yellow tom cat, that has been "fixed" and declawed. We are looking for a good home for him...INTERESTED?

Posted by: Billy Awww sorry to hear this, Josh. More people should be like you and adopt from shelters.

Posted by: Jane Josh, I hate to hear about your cat.

Posted by: Gina Josh, You're not alone. Thanks for sharing your story and bringing awareness to this topic. It's very important.

Posted by: Bev We've had our black lab for 11 years, since our son was 10. They grew up together and we have many wonderful memories. Like all of us he is getting more feeble and sickly and I dread the day that we find him dead or it becomes necessary to put him down. They become members of our family, part of our lives. I'm sorry you had to lose him before you could make special memories together. You did the right thing adopting him.

Posted by: Jane What a sad story, Josh. I cried when I read it. More people should be like you and adopt pets from animal shelters.

Posted by: Anonymous Josh, i'm so sorry to hear about your sweet tom cat! he was lucky to have you save him from the shelter and he passed in his favorite place.

Posted by: Jennings Josh, thank you for sharing your story. I understand what you went through. Five years ago when I was still at Marshall, I noticed a stray cat that had appeared at the dorm I was an Resident Advisor at. Anyway, I took the cat to the shelter and I felt bad about it because I knew that she had a 50/50 chance of being adopted (she was about six weeks old) and I worked out a deal with my Mom to adopt her and bring her to Jackson County. I took her to my parents and she was given the name Sniffles. Nearly a year later she got ill all of the sudden and before we knew it she was gone. I was very heartbroken, but I knew that by rescuing Sniffles I gave her the chance to enjoy life and knowing that she was around people who loved her. God bless you for what you did for Nigel and take comfort that both Sniffles and Nigel are playing together in a place where they can not feel any pain! Thank you again for sharing your story!

Posted by: Liz This is not Melanie's blog, Donna. It's Josh Fitzpatrick's. Josh sorry to hear about this. I'm a bigger fan of your now for sharing this story.

Posted by: Donna Melanie, I have never been told that about older animals before. Let me recommend my vet - Dr. Ayers - he and his staff are awesome. He is on 20th Street. An older, child friendly housebroken dog might help your son also. I adopted my rescues from CherishedCockers.org out of Cicy. You can even foster one to see if it works for you. They are awesome!

Posted by: JK Sorry about the loss of your buddy. I have 2 cats raised from 8 wks old, one is going to be 16 and the other 13 this year. They almost ended up being split up in a divorce but I stood my ground and kept them together. You will know when its time to find you another animal, but get one. They are a great gift from God and I dont know where Id be without mine. Take care and hang in.

Posted by: jessica I have been in your shoes more than once, Josh. I got a cat when I was 19 and got him fixed right away. He was just a kitten then. He was going to be an outside cat but the weather started getting bad so we brought him in "just until the weather warms up" 10 years later, he was still inside. He survived a fire and died in 2003 at the age of 10. He was a big part of my life.

Posted by: Janine I know what it is like to lose a pet you love. All you can do is try to remember the good times you had. I had a kitten that I found sick outside my house. I kept her and took care of her, but she had to be put to sleep. There was no helping her. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. A month later I decided I had to stop being so sad about it and I saved another little kitten from the steets. I love him so much, but he will never replace my Snooter. My heart goes out to you!

Posted by: Nokey Joshua, I am very proud of you for telling your story. I know it was not easy for you, you were always a tender soul. God bless you, Mom

Posted by: Florence Josh I am really sorry to hear about Nigel. We too have lost pets. We had a nice cat her name and Pedro and she loved the outdoors. She was ran down by a car sitting under our mailbox. Hopefully you will adopt another. My daughter adopted one that was a year old and he his so loving.

Posted by: Kathy P. Josh, I am sorry to hear of your loss. You can rest assured that you gave Nigel the chance of having love and a gentle pat before he had to leave you. Don't let yourself experience any guilt because you did act responsibly and have him "fixed". You gave him happiness and cat bliss with a place of his very own. Imagine what it would have been like for him to have died without knowing that special care. Too many older animals never have that chance. I too have adopted older friends and lost them. I don't regret a minute of it. I have a special friend now, Thumper that I got when he was "older" even though he was only 2 and a half. He's half bobcat and weighs in nearly 20 pounds! He would have been put down but I too chose to take a chance and give Thumper a loving home. Give yourself time to mourn and celebrate the life of Nigel! God Bless you for your kindness.

Posted by: SuzanneSmith I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. IT IS DIFFICULT TO SELECT ANOTHER ANIMAL BUT I AM SURE THERE IS ANOTHER ONE THAT COULD USE A GOOD HOME. I JUST FOUND A 2 YRS OLD CAT THAT I AM IN LOVE WITH. SHE IS THE FIRST THING I SEE IN THE AM AND THE LAST THING AT NIGHT. P.S. SHE IS SPAYED AND HER NAME IS GRACIE

Posted by: Tim Bless you bud. What a nice thing to do. I am not a cat person, but would never hurt one and will pet when I am around one. I have two dogs. Admire you pal and wanted to say sorry for your loss. Just remember you gave that bud a little extra time and love man. What a gent!

Posted by: Bethany As a devout animal lover, I cannot stand to lose a pet. As silly as it may sound to some, they are a part of my family. I am glad for Nigel, that he got to live a short life where he knew he was loved with you. I don't think you regret loving him, just losing him too soon.

Posted by: beth HEY I FILL FOR YOU WE GOT OUR CHOC LAB FIXED AND A MONTH LATER SHE DIED ITS THE HARDEST THING TO EVER DO THEY SAID SHE GOT AN INFECTION AND DEVELOPED CANCER AND IT WENT STRAIGHT TO HER BRAIN SHE DID NOT KNOW US AND THEN SHE WAS BARKING FOR NO REASON AND THEN WENT BLIND STARTING LOSING WEIGHT AND NOT ACTING RIGHT AND WE TOOK HER TO THE VET AND THEY GAVE HER ANTIBOTIC AND THEY KEPT HER AND CALL US THE NEXT MORNING AND SAID SHE DIED IT WAS ALWFUL I KNOW EXCATLY WHAT YOUR GOING THROUGH AND I AGREE GET THEM FIXED AS SOON AS THE VET WILL DO IT MY DOG ABGIL ABBY FOR SHORT WAS 6 YEARS OLD I WOULD HAVE DONE IT SOONER BUT WE WERE GOING TO BREED HER BUT IT DID NOT WORK OUT. BUT I DO KNOW I WILL ALWAYS FIX MY ANIMALS WHEN THERE OLD ENOUGH. TAKE CARE.

Posted by: Ashley Josh, thank you so much for sharing your story. Not only did you save one of the more than 6500 animals that are killed at the shelter in just one year, but you bring attention to such a sensitive issue. Spaying and neutering your pets is EXTREMELY important. So is supporting shelters in your area. I encourage you to get involved with Little Victories of Huntington. This no kill shelter for animals and is a haven for these beloved beings. Please email me for more info...but I would also suggest adopting another animal as they fulfill your life with so much! Kudos to you and your compassion for animals!!! :)

Posted by: Peter Allen Triplett We send hugs we know this is a loss your like me and jonathan we have two cats sophia and webester this will take a little time but go get another kitty or a dog the time we spend with our cat's our extra special and we love them trually love them and spoiled rotten what can I say try it again some advice take them to a vet in town it's cleaner and the enviroment is better animal shelters I worry on cleanleness and how sterile those places are anyway take a hug from a viewer who loves animals just as much as we do

Posted by: Jane I am so sorry, but I do advise you to change vets. The symptoms you describe, esp. not eating, are not normal after neutering. The vet should have drawn blood to check for infection on the first visit. Neutering is a minor surgery. You gave Nigel a wonderful chance and a loving home.

Posted by: Sherry Josh, I'm so sorry for the loss of your Nigel. Losing a beloved pet is so much harder than people who don't love animals can understand. Years ago, I had a kitten, Bratt, that was a "city dump rescue." He died just a few weeks after being neutered. It supposedly was Leukemia. The vet said he was probably born with it and the stress of the surgery probably made it surface. My sister has a kitten who also almost died after being neutered. However, he apparently was either over-sedated or had a reaction to the anesthesia. So, Josh, you're not alone, but all us animal lovers' hearts are aching for you. Whenever your heart is healed, please consider adopting another homeless animal. You think like me as far as adopting the "older" ones who most people overlook. You're a charm! Have a wonderful, sunny day, and know that others are thinking of you.

Posted by: SHARON At least you know the last few weeks he lived was a "great life" for Nigel. I have two cats of my own and am taking care of an "old yellow cat" his name.For the first time in his life he has a safe cat/dog pen fenced in with a dog/cat house food,water and a loving home.I didn't want another animal after I had my beloved dog put to sleep due to kidney failure and still miss her terribly after 2 years but I will always have her in my heart.You did the right thing hopefully you will go back and pick another "older cat or dog" and bring happiness to them. You are truely a much better person for taking care of the babies of the world.

Posted by: Alice I am really sorry to hear that. My 5 year old cat died in February, after a short 2 months of being sick. She had the same symptoms as your cat, although she had been spayed at 5 months. The Vet said she had a neurological condition. I am still amazed that an illness can happen so fast. I also wondered if we may have gotten some bad cat food again.

Posted by: P.C. Josh, I am so sorry for your loss. Pets become much loved very fast. I know that you will miss furry friend but rest easy knowing that he was loved and happy for the time he was with you.

Posted by: Stacy Josh, I'm so sorry about your loss. I am an animal lover. I know they are loving, caring creatures with feelings and emotions. I cried and cried when I read about this. Bless your heart for opening up your home and your heart for a discarded animal. I wish many more people would go to the shelters and pick out a pet and save some animals life. It does break your heart when you walk in and they are all begging for you to take them home before they are put to death. Maybe you could find it in your heart to go back and pick another pet. Glad you were able to give him the love and affection he so deserved. What a sweet man you are.

Posted by: Debbie Josh, I took in a stray female 14 and 1/2 years ago, she had already had one litter at least. I got her fixed and she's still with me. However, she now has a slight limp, and recently diagnosed with hyperthyroid. So far she is doing OK, but I know the dreaded day is coming. I will take comfort in knowing I gave her the best life I could, and you should too.

Posted by: mjr Josh, you are probably right.. You were probably an angel to poor Nigel. You gave him a nice comfortable place to die, instead of the shelter. Your a sweet man.

Posted by: Penny I am so sorry your sweet friend died. :-( Rest in peace, Nigel. Please let us know if you give another loving pet a home. There is nothing like the companionship of a cat.

Posted by: DJ Being a pet owner myself, the loss of your cat hit home. I'm sorry to hear about this Josh. It's not easy no matter how long we had a pet... DJ

Posted by: Ruth Oh no! That's so sad! This made me cry. Keep up the good work though Josh.

Posted by: Deborah I should never read these at work...now I'm sitting at my desk crying. You did a GOOD thing. Too many animals are treated like so much litter - to be tossed when no longer needed. I hope you feel better soon. My husband & I have 2 dogs & five cats - AND THEY ARE ALL SPAYED &/OR NEUTERED.

Posted by: Katy Sorry for the loss of your cat. Animals can be great companionship when you live alone. You did a great thing and don't have any regrets!